- Placement of a child with persons other than his natural parents, with
full legal parental authority vested in the adoptive parents.
Historically a charitable act, secrecy has turned adoption into
- Research aimed not at exploring the unknown, but at producing numbers to
support a pre-existing dogma.
- Leaving the foster care system by reaching age of majority.
- A parent whose child has been taught to hate him.
- Amber ambush
- Public alert to take children from parents.
- A course of study often prescribed for parents
involved with the child protection system. Social
workers think of parental anger at child snatching
as a lack of appreciation of their services.
- Attachment refers to the child's bond with his parents. When children
are removed from their parents and placed with substitutes, they often
treat their new family as thieves. Psychiatrists treat this normal
child reaction to aberrant adults as a disorder. In April 2000 Candace
Newmaker was murdered in a form of crackpot therapy designed to cure
- The funds appropriated to provide food and shelter to foster children.
It includes the overhead to operate the agency, and is often large
enough to serve as an incentive to snatch children from their parents.
The term can also apply to the funds, originating both from the public
treasury and adoptive parents, that go persons inside the adoption
- Historically a place where care of babies was provided for hire.
Unscrupulous baby farmers accepted a lump-sum fee for raising a baby to
adulthood, then killed the baby a few days after admission. Baby farms
became extinct near the turn of the twentieth century.
best interest of the child
- A warm-sounding phrase that justifies atrocities in child protection and
divorce. It belongs in the same book with other failed slogans such as
separate but equal, arbeit macht frei and workers
unite. The child's true best interest is keeping his parents.
- In a world in which parents are deemed to be
interchangeable, this term is necessary to distinguish
the true mother from her substitutes.
- Taking a baby around the time of birth.
- A discussion or meeting for the purpose of assigning blame.
- Service of legal process extremely close to the court date, preventing
the target from obtaining legal counsel.
- Anyone taking care of a child. Use of this term
suggests that parents are fungible.
- caseworker or case worker
- Any person child-protectors assign to the job of working with (or
against) a family.
- A case worker
- An anti-depressant. Generic name: citalopram.
child abuse registry
- A list of child abusers maintained by social services. In Ontario and
many other jurisdictions courts have no control over who is on and off
- A character in the 1968 movie Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, whose mission is
to find and dispose of all children in the barony of Vulgaria.
- child laundering
- The illegal acquisition of children through monetary transactions,
deceit, and/or force.
- Ill-informed reformers often advocate children's rights as a remedy to
the abuses of child protection. In practice, since young children
cannot advocate for themselves, persons speaking for the rights of the
child are usually courthouse hacks advocating destruction of the
- The tendency of parents to be more abusive toward children who are not
their natural offspring.
- Drug used to induce sleepiness in active children.
- close your file
- Children's aid never destroys a file. Some parents over thirty have
been astonished to find CAS citing family history from when they were
toddlers. When a CAS worker suggests she might close a file, it is a
gambit to get a little more cooperation from her victim.
- Social work jargon for the kind of case where workers can find nothing
abusive in the family, so they search the house to find things out of
- coerced abandonment
- Signing away custody of a handicapped child as the only way to get
- The same chemical as Ritalin, packaged for prolonged release.
- Simultaneously arranging for reunification of a child with his parents
and adoption of the child by strangers. Also called dual planning.
- An expert witness can use this phrase to suggest to a jury events for
which there is no evidence.
- constructive serial sterilization
- A doctrine that once a mother has lost a child to protectors, later
children can be snatched in the delivery room. (from Barbara
- Child Protective Services, generic term for the child protection
industry throughout the United States. Sometimes spelled CP$.
- Canadian term for a child legally severed from his parents. There are
many synonyms, ward of the court, ward of the state, permanent ward,
- A term for the victims in Argentina's dirty war, in which persons
disappeared, but police would not give family members any information
about their fate.
- detained child
- What the social workers call a foster child, but without the beneficent
- Client's name for what child protectors think of as
- divorce continuation
- A case in which child protectors intervene in a family after a divorce
has taken place.
- (Ontario term). Since the interventions that destroy a
family are called "services", the criteria for
determining which families get the intervention are
called eligibility. In straight talk, the eligibility
spectrum determines who loses his kids.
- A condition in which two family members are so closely
joined that they cannot function independently. When
the persons are parent and child, for example a
homeschooling family, it is a psychological
justification for removing a child where neglect cannot
be asserted. The term was popularized by Salvador
- err on the side of the child
- A slogan justifying removal of children from their
parents in dubious cases. Given that foster care is
many times more dangerous than parental care, it is
actually erring on the side of danger.
- Generic drug known with the trade names Lexapro, Cipralex, Seroplex,
Lexamil and Lexam. A drug in the SSRI class used as an anti-depressant.
- A parent completely removed from the life of his child.
Also ex-father, ex-mother.
- family death penalty
- Crown-wardship, or termination of parental rights.
- Family Group Decision-Making. A group that makes decisions for a
family. Social workers outnumber parents who are reduced to an advisory
- Family law.
- Matter added to a report by social workers to justify family
intervention. From CPS in Abiline Texas.
- Adtopion without the consent of parents. Coined by Ian Josephs.
- forever family
- Social services term for an adoptive family.
- foster care + incarceration, by Susan Jackson.
- foster care
- An arrangement for care of a child in which legal authority vests in a
bureaucrat who may see the child for one hour a month or less, while the
day-to-day care is provided by a paid contractor with no legal authority
over the child. A century ago, foster care referred to temporary care
of children until they could be returned to their parents.
- foster parent
- The contractor mentioned in the definition of foster care. Candidly
called "foster contractor".
- When used as a euphemism for sex, it suggests that sex roles are
arbitrarily assigned rather than biologically determined.
- See wikipedia
- genetic sexual attraction
- Sexual attraction between close relatives, such as siblings, first and
second cousins or a parent and offspring, who first meet as adults.
- An anti-psychotic, generic name ziprasidone.
- Calling your opponents Nazis.
- harvested mother
- A mother whose children have been taken for adoption.
(originated by Erika Klein).
- he or she
- This now-common pronoun serves to remind readers that
there is something wrong with masculinity by itself. We
do not concur, and avoid the compound pronoun.
- The increased function of any biological quality in a hybrid offspring.
- Adoption of the kind of child most coveted by adoptive parents.
Typically the child goes to the family willing to pay a substantial fee
to mediate the adoption.
- No words are more typical of our moral culture than “inappropriate” and
“unacceptable.” They seem bland, gentle even, yet they carry the full
force of official power. When you hear them, you feel that you are
being tied up with little pieces of soft string. Inappropriate and
unacceptable began their modern careers in the 1980s as part of the
jargon of political correctness. They have more or less replaced a
number of older, more exact terms: coarse, tactless, vulgar, lewd.
They encompass most of what would formerly have been called “improper”
or “indecent.”…“Inappropriate” and “unacceptable” are the catchwords of
a moralism that dare not speak its name. They hide all measure of
righteous fury behind the mask of bureaucratic neutrality. For the sake
of our own humanity, we should strike them from our vocabulary. —
- Inhabitants of the Americas descended from the pre-Columbian people.
Use of this historically incorrect term continues while the alternatives
are too technical (Aboriginal, Mongoloid, Amerind), racist (Métis), too
specific (Mohawk, Ojibwa) or reek of political correctness (First
Nation, Native American).
- justice theatre
- The outward display of justice, meant to deflect criticism while nothing
is really done. Example: lawsuits against state child protection
systems by Children's Rights Inc.
- A child freed for adoption by severing all legal ties with his parents.
Also paper orphan, and in Canada, crown ward. In many cases, the
parents are still willing and able to care for the child.
- Anti-depressant. Generic name: escitalopram.
- In pharmacology, a mood-stabilizer qv.
- Adoption of an undesirable child. Typically the agency must offer
incentives to the adopters to get the problem child off their hands.
- A person required by law to report suspected child-abuse
to child protection agencies. This now includes just
about every professional who comes in contact with
children in his work, such as teachers, doctors,
day-care workers and policemen. Also known as
- mercenary parent
- What the social services industry calls a foster
- Drug companies may not make unsubstantiated therapeutic claims for
off-label uses of drugs. The term mood-stabilizer has no official
definition, so any drug can be promoted for this use.
- moral entrepreneur
- An individual, group, or formal organization that takes on the
responsibility of persuading society to develop or to enforce rules that
are consistent with its own ardently held moral beliefs. Moral
entrepreneurs may act as rule creators by crusading for the passage of
rules, laws, and policies against behaviors they find abhorrent, or as
rule enforcers by administering and implementing them. Although these
are different and distinct roles, the effect of moral entrepreneurship,
according to Howard Becker who coined the term, is the formation of a
new class of outsiders whose behavior now violates these newly minted
regulations and therefore is subject to the opprobrious label of
- multidisciplinary approach
- A form of cooperation in which members of different trades generate
business for each other.
- natural parent
- See: birth mother.
- noble cause corruption
- A state of mind in which a person commits otherwise illegal or immoral
acts for a worthy purpose. It explains the actions of workers and
experts in actions to separate children from their parents, break up
marriages and sometimes jail people on false allegations. Similar to
the aphorism "the ends justify the means".
- An anti-psychotic, trade name Zyprexa. Infamous for the side-effect of
rapid weight gain.
- parental alienation syndrome (PAS)
- A pattern of behavior in which a child is taught to
dislike or fear a natural parent. The term was coined
by Dr Richard Gardner to describe divorced parents, but
the same syndrome can occur in child protection
- paper orphan
- see legal orphan
- Prior to the era of political correctness, parent was
not used as a verb, or if used at all, referred to the
reproductive process of becoming a parent. It now
refers to the acts of caring for a child. Routine use
of this verb suggests that a substitute parent is as
good as the real thing.
parenting capacity assessment
- In Ontario, an evaluation of a family by a professional
selected by the Children's Aid Society. In all but the
rarest cases, the parents fail.
- parenting classes
- A form of treatment often prescribed for a family by
case workers. As well as running down the clock, bad
lessons serve the purposes of child protectors, since
when the child fails to improve, they can further blame
- An anti-depressant. Generic name: paroxetine.
- Avoiding contact with children out of fear of pedophile
accusation. Failure to help a toddler in November 2002
led to the death of Abby Rae.
- practice baby
- A baby borrowed from and orphanage and used for educating college women
in home economics. Used by many universities, including Cornell from
1921 to 1969.
- psych whore
- Colloquialism among legal professionals to describe
psychiatrists who diagnose children with disorders in
order to increase funding of child protection
- public pretender
- Play on the words "public defender", referring to their
habit of offering no meaningful defense.
- public serpent
- Someone who might describe himself as public servant.
Term attributed to Marilyn Treveno.
- Exaggerated praise used for promotional purposes.
- Acronym for quasi-autonomous non-governmental organization, an agency
formally independent but exercising a government function often using
- An atypical antipsychotic. Trade names: Seroquel, Xeroquel, Ketipinor.
- The application of force to the human body to limit movement.
- An anti-psychotic.
- A stimulant administered for its calming effect.
- A mother who points out perceived faults in the child caring of others.
- A person jailed while his name is withheld from the public.
- quetiapine (qv)
- Fears of social services driving a family to avoid necessities for a
child, such as medical care.
- The social services industry's name for their actions, even when
destructive of families.
shaken baby syndrome
- A medical theory that a baby can be killed by shaking that causes no
perceptible damage to the skeletal system. Purportedly, subdural
hematoma, retinal hemorrhage and brain swelling are the indicators of
shaken baby. The theory is now scientifically discredited, but many
persons falsely accused are still suffering consequences.
- A divorce imposed against the will of both partners.
- See mandated reporter.
- A person with credentials in social work. But the term
is often used as a synonym for caseworker
social worker smirk
- Anyone who has seen it knows what it is.
- A novel by William Styron and movie starring Meryl
Streep. The title character enters a Nazi concentration
camp and has seconds to decide whether to give up her
daughter or her son.
- Schutzstaffel, the parent organization of the Gestapo,
which carried out the holocaust; also social
- In normal use, assistance, but in social worker jargon, orders delivered
- termination of parental rights
- The severing of legal ties between parent and child. It is known as the
family death penalty. The Canadian term is crown-wardship.
- In proper use, the treatment of an infirmity, but in social services
usage, often a form involuntary and destructive intervention in a
family. Clients define therapist by adding a space inside the
- Phrase used in the Ontario Coroner's office during the heyday of
pathologist Dr Charles Smith, expressing their attitude in cases of
child deaths. Many innocent parents of dead children were falsely
accused of homicide, and many more lost their children because of the
think dirty accusations.
- A mood-stabilizer qv.
- unworthy victim
- Opposite of worthy victim (qv).
veto of silence
- A social services response to an inquiring reporter, no comment, but
suggesting that there would be a different side to the story if
confidentiality could be breached. This usually scares the reporter
away from the story. From Richard Wexler.
- Village People
- Unwanted professionals entering the life of a child. Derived from the
name of a musical group formed in the late 1970's combined with the
title of Hillary Clinton's child-care book It takes a
- Walther (verb)
- Walthered describes the railroading or harming of families with small
children with no justifiable cause, except to cover up one’s own
incompetency. Originated by blogger kbp, based on the actions of
Barbara Walther, the county judge in the Yearning For Zion case in
- worthy victim
- A victim whose victimhood tends to support elite policies, and
consequently merits public attention.
- A program in which a large number of professionals collaborate on the
treatment of one child, brought under control of the therapeutic system
by the courts.
- wolf fairy
- Name for social worker by youngest son of caller to the Alex Jones show.
- olanzapine (qv)