Too Fat

June 17, 2012 permalink

To our list of marginalized parents, nudists, vegetarians, smokers and racists, add the obese. Ottawa CAS is trying to remove the children from a father on account of his obesity.

The doctor assessing the father on behalf of CAS slams him for losing only 145 pounds. A memorable quote from the doctor is: "(The father's) health issues are magnified by his anti-authoritarian traits and refusal to follow recommended treatments". Sounds like he doesn't like being bossed around by social workers. Quite a normal dad.

Note that the extreme obesity of Gary Putman, former executive director of Dufferin CAS, did not prevent him from serving as a child protector.

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Judge to rule on whether obesity is factor in man's fitness for fatherhood

By Gary Dimmock, Postmedia News June 17, 2012

In a family court case to be ruled on soon, a judge will, in part, decide whether a 38-year-old Ottawa man is too fat to be a dad.

OTTAWA — In a family court case to be ruled on soon, a judge will, in part, decide whether a 38-year-old Ottawa man is too fat to be a dad.

The Royal Ottawa Hospital's family court clinic, which does court-ordered assessments on parents, is now using obesity as a factor when deciding if parents are fit to raise children.

In court filings by child-welfare authorities in the case of an obese Ottawa father who is fighting for custody of his two boys, a doctor at the family court clinic wrote:

"Finally, (father) has struggled with obesity for years, which impacts significantly on most aspects of his life including (his) functioning as a parent. He was short of breath or winded in simply walking short distances about the clinic and he lacks both the mobility and stamina required to keep up with young and active children.

"Once again, (the father's) strong personal beliefs on issues, including weight loss, make it difficult for him to accept the opinions of specialists on such matters," the doctor wrote in the assessment report.

He continued: "(The father) needs to address his own medical and psychological affairs. These would include his cannabis addiction and his level of physical fitness."

The Child and Family Services Act prohibits the Ottawa Citizen from identifying the father or his children, both with special needs and now in foster homes.

At his heaviest, the man fighting for custody of his two boys, ages 5 and 6, weighed 525 pounds.

He refused gastric bypass surgery at the Ottawa Hospital and decided instead to lose the weight through exercise — he used to be a power lifter — and proper diet. He trained seven days a week and swam lots of laps in a pool.

According to court filings, a doctor had recommended the sometimes deadly "obesity surgery," but the man declined and instead "had his own approach to weight loss."

"Quite frankly," a doctor wrote, "I do not believe he followed through with even one of our dietary recommendations."

In fact, the father dropped to 340 pounds on his own terms and now weighs 380.

He's proud of his weight loss and so is his doctor.

Still, the family court doctor contracted to assess the man's case deflated his achievement, writing:

"Regardless of how much weight (the father) may have lost to date, he will continue to be at risk related to his obesity for some considerable time. This will include not only his risk for major life threatening events, but also a lack of mobility and proneness to injury as was exemplified by (the father's) hobbling around on crutches when last seen individually. (The father's) health issues are magnified by his anti-authoritarian traits and refusal to follow recommended treatments. This also raises questions to his ability to make proper decisions in regards to his sons' medical, educational or psychological needs."

The father, who hasn't seen his boys in a year, says, "I was never too fat to be a dad."

He acknowledged his mistakes, has stopped using drugs, taken anger management courses (he and his ex-wife had a history of fights), and has lost weight.

"To have your children taken away from you because you are too fat is more than mildly insulting. But then to have busted my ass to lose the weight and still not be given a single chance is something only a few would understand," he said on Saturday.

He said he felt ashamed and likened it to bullying and discrimination.

"Any human who has the capacity, intellect and desire can be a wonderful parent, no matter if they are a dwarf or a parent in a wheelchair," he said. "Parenting comes from the heart and soul."

His boys were seized from his ex-wife's house after she was sent to hospital for treatment of a suspected overdose last year.

He is now fighting in court to get his sons back for good.

No matter that he has given up marijuana and dropped weight, his battle is uphill because, as court records show, even the "most highly-skilled parents might not be able to provide the attention and supervision required for these boys."

The boys are aggressive, quite active and have been known to jump on furniture and ignore orders so much so that they run away.

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Source: Ottawa Citizen