Family Epitaph

July 18, 2008 permalink

We copy below two posts to a discussion thread, one dated May 1, 2007 recounting CAS intervention in a family, and the second dated July 18, 2008 announcing the final end. The children's aid in question is a lot richer now that they are getting paid for their special needs child.

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screen name: smartlady23

I need advice

« Thread started on May 1, 2007, 8:54pm »

Hi I am in a bit of a situation and need some advice, my 23-month-old son was apprehended from me and my husband may 5th/06 and still remains in CAS. I have other children who remain in our care. At the time he was apprehended he had problems wrong with him one being that he had a feeding aversion and wouldn't drink and two he eventually was diagnosed with acid reflux. All these problems started at the age of two months old where he found it painful to eat and wouldn't drink. He then had a feeding tube inserted in his nose and underwent several tests to see why he just wouldn't eat. He was apprehended because CAS says me and my husband didn't pay enough attention to him and that he was malnutritioned. I am very disturbed by all this because he has had problems since two months old and we have taken him to the hospital several times to get him help but all those times it was just put against us from CAS in court saying we didn't provide the best care for him when all we ever did was try and get him help. He remains in care and since being in care he has been in the hospital over 20 times if not a lot more for the same reasons as in our care vomiting, coughing, gagging when on tube feeds, fevers,dehydrations, not eating etc. He then was transferred to Ottawa's Cheo sick kids hospital where they were very good and accurate and did some of their own tests and had found something wrong with him which then gave us a relief. They found out that the upper sphincters in my son's stomach weren't opening and closing like they should and everything he was eating or drinking was coming right back up so they had to go in and operate, where they wrapped some of the stomach around the esophagus to put pressure on the sphincters plus inserted a Gtube in his tummy. He recently was vomiting again which from the surgery they done said it would prevent vomiting so we were all worried about that. He was admitted back in the hospital in the place I live and was there for a week for vomiting, gagging, and drainage around the site of his tube. He is also back on acid block medication and is out of hosp and so far is doing good. I am currently fighting CAS and hoping something gives because this is ridiculous what they are putting my family through especially when I have other kids with us that are fine and healthy. All this is doing is putting us through pain and suffering because its very clear that what is going on isn't a result of anything we have done it's medical and CAS doesn't want to admit that they keep pointing finger's at us.

Please someone help or provide advice cause we need closure

Thanks

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« Reply #167 July 18, 2008 at 1:52pm »

Hey all sorry its been awhile since posting, a lot has been going on. I have had a lot to deal with CAS-wise. They found out somehow I was coming on this site even though I remained anonymous and were using it against me in my papers that I was posting my case on here so thats why I laid low for a bit. For a quick and brief update things didn't go as I had planned and hoped it would. Finished court in May 2nd/08 and recently then lost my son who is now three to crownwardship to CAS. It is an open adoption and we requested pics and letters twice a year so I hope they keep up their end of the bargain and plus we are allowed to write him during the years to come also and include pics, videos of us etc. We also prepared a scrapbook of the entire family so that it will be shown to him growing up. It will be a long wait waiting until hes 18 to come looking for us. I just wished things would have worked out differently in the end, I believe me and my hubby done everything we could have possibly to win our son home and its breaking my heart each and every day as I think about him and how he is doing and whether he has made the final move to his adoptive home as they have already found him one prior to him even being crown ward. I just hope that he receives good care and all his medical needs met etc. He will always be in our hearts and prayers. I believe we are good parents and that once again CAS took a child from a home that was doing fine before they stepped in as I have two other kids with us who are perfectly healthy and we love them all so dearly.

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