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Culture of Suspicion
December 15, 2007 permalink
A discussion on a private forum dealt with the subject of the feelings of the victims of CAS child theft. Participants spoke of anger, torment, guilt, shame fear, hate, disgrace and disappointment. CAS targets develop the same habits as eastern Europeans under communism, constantly wondering who to trust, and who not. Our previous research indicated that losing a child to abduction was more painful than seeing a child die. Below are comments by two of the participants, copied with permission.
My spouse and I have three children who were never abused but taken away anyway cause the grandparents who are abusive and criminals said so. We had a beautiful family and I'm not sure if we are going to get them back or not but if we do I'm afraid of all the damage that may have been done to our children. I'm afraid we won't be the family we used to be. My youngest son who is just turning 4 doesn't understand why he was taken from his loving parents and older siblings. So far we have missed almost a year of our children growing and learning, birthdays and the youngest's first day of school. The CAS are abusive and emotionally traumatizing hundreds of families. When are they going to be held responsible for all the damage they have done?
I lost everything. I lost my children. My husband, as I knew him. I lost my closest family members....., my friends. My closest friend even. I lost my life as it was.
My neighbours wouldn't speak to me and gave me dirty looks.
I used to be a fairly trusting person. I didn't have a hard time trusting people and I gave most people the benefit of the doubt.My trust has now been deeply and violently violated, by so many people that I have a hard time trusting anyone. My life seems severely altered. Without trust it is very difficult to for many kind of relationship with others.
This is a major effect that I have suffered at the hands of liars, back-stabbers, betrayers and the CAS who did not attempt to sort out the truth.
I am hardly interested in making new friends, where before I was well-liked and I loved my friends. But now I get irritated easily by people. I find myself wanting to distance myself, rather that trying to make friends.
I am now suspicious of almost everyone.